Blissings and Blessings to you on this lovely and beautiful [glow=red,2,300]bird-chirping[/glow] blue-grey sky day.
It has been brought to my attention, more than once, that I sometimes "fracture" myself (my self from my Self) with my linguistics.... Would you mind please letting me know your thoughts? Here are a couple of examples, what I say vs. what I "should" say to avoid fracture:
* I am taking myself to the movies VS. I am going to the movies.
* I brought myself to the party VS. I went to the party.
Your DIVA-licious insights are appreciated. Thanks!
My first impression is that you are doing good things for yourself with yourself. You are being a good friend to your self and a good date to yourself.
So my question to you is, what rings true and feel good to you?
Does your inner diva feel separated, like two beings interacting, or does she feel unified, in love with herself? (This is how God loves us you know, letting us believe we are separate so we can experience the joy of union.)
This is more to the point. When you hear the evaluation of your language, how did it land? Did you feel the person was being silly, or did you feel holy shit, I'm divided!
Post by erinunleashes on Jan 25, 2011 14:39:09 GMT -8
I second the suggestion to ask yourself if you felt the person was being silly or if it hit home - words can be so pregnant with reality - and they can just be plain old words.
Wise-hearted people who have brought me a clearer sense of myself by giving me my own words back feel totally different than someone's sharing bringing me to my counter productive self conscious place and feeling like i'm being 'policed' instead of inspired....
it's not entirely obvious what 'fractured' really is supposed to mean. why is it automatically assumed to be a sign of something 'bad' or unworking in your psyche? I'm mean, really, what the heck is so unallowable about going about your life with more than one way of being in any given moment, of being aware of more than one variation on your self that you can comment on, look on, laugh with, and take to a friggin' movie?
but that's just a mouthy way to ask the same question Diva Carla asked
Thank you Divas for your insights! It gave me some juiciness to savour for a while ... and ... I had an observable experience on this very topic last night - someone else used "my" wording... I'll explain.
I was at a Law of Attraction meeting last night. One regular attendee showed up after me and upon her entry into the door, the facilitator mentioned to her that hot water was ready for tea. She gleefully responded with "Great! I also brought myself some milk and sugar". She could have said "I brought some milk and sugar." I perceive her as a whole person, not fractured. This is the kind of wording that was puzzling me, hence my initial post.
So ... due to your welcomed responses, mouthy or not I love them all, and last night's experience, I've had some insights.
Diva Carla - Thank you for noticing that I am doing good things for myself, being a good friend to me and being a great date to me, yes, I Am. My Energetic Diva does not feel separate from my Physical Diva. I do notice a "feeling" or an "inner shaking" when my self and Self are not in alignment, or I'm not feeling grounded, or not fully embracing my True Self. At those times, my Physical Diva (and ego) is attempting to override and belittle my Energetic Diva - ha! As far as I understand it, a disconnect only happens in the mind - a mental disconnect. That's also what prompted my post .. a check in.
Also, the first time I heard the question I instantly thought about the other person "What? You thought that?" and then said "That's not what I meant or felt." I didn't think the person was being silly, it sounded like a sincere and valid question at the time. Upon further reflection though, it did tell me more about the other persons thought processes ...
Diva Erin - yes, I hear what you are saying. There is a different feeling between being presented with inspiration vs. policing... I have felt the question being presented in both fashions. And I agree with you, there is more than one way of verbal expression. Even if someone is "fractured", whatever that means to that person, who is to say that that is not their lesson in life? To learn how to re-unite? and perhaps it being pointed out may only cause further fracture? or perhaps a reunification can then happen? who knows.... It is truly up to each person to be aware of what is in their highest good in each moment.
To me it feels more like my mind/Heart knows there is only One Me and let's have Energetic Diva and Physical Diva "play together". As I see it, since We are all One, then we are all in the same Sandbox of Energy so let's have some fun together while we have these Physical Divas to use as tools for enjoyment!!
In a nutshell - what rings true is that I acknowledge I have a temporary physical body to walk around in to have experiences and emotions and my Self is occupying this Vivacious Vessel of Sultry Liquid Gold. So, Energetic Diva is taking Physical Diva to the movies, and then a party and "We" are going to dance (among other things) the night away with Benicio Del Toro ... ;D
Post by erinunleashes on Jan 26, 2011 16:57:17 GMT -8
I'm glad you are dancing with your Divas!
If this is an unwanted tanget, I do apologize, but I am making a connection that I'd love to share.
The idea of someone presenting to you that you are 'fractured' based on their interpretation of your action and their understanding of the word belief about it's goodness or badness for you regardless of how you might actually be showing up, without taking the time to sit in their wisdom seat and wait for true glimpses of you made me think about how this happens all the time from people who carry faith about many different things.
I then read a facebook post from Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes about her suggestions of how to discern it from a wisdom-sharing and how to handle it.
But a person of faith doesnt try to verify nor understand the belief, rather to follow its goodness, its example, its very very love.
That would be my test, were I Madrina, Godmother of the world, about any belief... as I wrote in WWRWTW, does this person/ action/ belief/ decision/ choice, make my life larger or smaller?
Does this person/ action/ belief/ decision/ choice bring me closer to the world, more understanding, more compassionate, more filled with creative life, with true love undiminished?
Does it bring me more humanity, regard for the world and those who suffer, including learning more and more myself?
Try to cleave to those who proceed in graciousness, regardless of their chosen beliefs. I've friends, for instance who are agnostic and some who are atheists, and they are warm, humane people toward others. Again, it is not the belief. It is the actions/ words/pressure.
You choose what to believe from your Soul, and you choose who to remain beside, with and near that 'sturdyfies' you... and you will have good long draughts of happiness and contentment as you learn more and more, and transform various more and more... as you wish. As you choose in all honor and dedication
We are used to 'defending' ourselves against the familiar christian judgements - we've learned to suss 'em out and hold our own. And a lot of the beliefs we moved toward held a hope for not being condemned by our peers anymore - but unfortunately, it's not the beliefs themselves that were ever doing the condemning. It was the people behind them. I've met enough law of attraction believers who use their belief to blame people for their own tragedies as much as I may have met christians inclined to do the same thing.
Mukulikaa, you didn't use the word 'judgement' to describe being described as fractured, so i'm owning my assumption here that it was one of the options for how you might feel about it. And I hope you don't mind that, because it led me to an insight that helps me:
The insight around that for me is that we can't rely on the content of the beliefs themselves to tell us whether they are good for us or not - because it's how they are expressed - onto us by others and by ourselves onto others - that ultimately matters.
Sifting through all the options of who to be around, who and what to listen to, what path to follow, what collection of beliefs to be guided by, how to hold onto them and how to express them and how to bless others with them can feel so complex, so overwhelming and overly intellectual that I feel a profound blessing of simplicity in my body when she uses the word 'sturdify' as the point of reference for all the we let in.
Dr. E is on Facebook?? ....... Liked! Thank you for that connection. I love her book WWRWTW!!
Absolutely, I have found that sometimes people will contribute their thoughts/beliefs of my behaviour/words based on their own beliefs and placing them on me, before actually absorbing who I truly am in that moment.
I love the post of hers that you shared - Bingo! She has essentially described "The Way of the Master" ... or in our cases, "The Way of The Divinely Guided and Inspired Diva".
Regarding judgement - sure, feeling judged is an option and sometimes I did feel it (years ago). On some occasions I didn't feel judged, but felt a sincere inquiry coming from the person and desired to respond in kind fashion. On some occasions I did know that I was definitely, so very obviously being judged. The funny thing about that is ... when my "E-Diva and P-Diva" are in Alignment, I can remain in pure observation of the comments or questions, and respond in which ever fashion feels appropriate for me at that time.
Absolutely, I completely agree that no matter what faith or belief anyone follows, it's what is in their Heart that matters. To me, a Heart-felt delivery comes with an energetic signature that feels "bigger" and an ego-driven delivery comes with a signature of feeling "smaller". hahahahaha yes, I love your last paragraph about "sturdify" - what an awesome word! That's equivalent of my word "bigger" or expanded or feeling emotionally lighter.